written by ella smith
We’ve all been there. Floating through life, away with the fairies as they say. Then suddenly, you’re hit by the realisation that you’re growing older and older, and then your mind wanders into the abyss of a quarter life crisis – “what have I achieved? I’m still single; that means I’m going to be alone forever! I don’t feel very grown up, am I really an adult when my mind is stuck in its teenage years?” I schedule at least five times a year, to fall into an uncomfortable drift of revaluation. If any of this sounds familiar to you, then I’d like to formally welcome you to capital “A” Ageing. Now, you always knew you’d end up here amongst all of us lost souls. Growing up is the biggest illusion of all, as if the concept of time in relation to age isn’t enough of a mind-fuckery as it is.
As we transition from a care-free student, to being out and about lost, in the work field, you are faced with the other inevitable shift of your transition of what we call, growing up. The change in friendship dynamics. If you’ve made it through university and still have the same friends you started with, then props to you, and welcome to the “B” Bye-bye stage. From seeing or even living with your friends every day, to seeing them all move away and move on with their lives, leaves you finding yourself spending more time with co-workers, that’s if you are lucky enough to have anything beyond geographical space in common. Suddenly, you’re faced with an unstable economy and crippling university debt, and to top it off, a deep unsettling sense of having no control of your life.
The security blanket of government money and parents is slowly being stripped away all whilst you’re essentially standing in life naked having just been re-birthed into adulthood.
Being the millennial generation, we have been raised to be an individual of uniqueness. But with a world still partially stuck in limbo of the boomer generation, the concept of unique individuality is something that nobody really knows much about, let alone how to express it.
Rampant uncertainty replaces all things structure and routine. The mechanism of finding and working for your dream job is something you understand, but the in-betweens of failing at success are the parts we haven’t yet been taught, and that alone is enough to force you into another quarter life crisis.
Becoming an adult is one of life’s many challenging transitions. It’s about becoming who you’ve always wanted to be, and the struggles you face trying to get to that point. You may not feel ready for wrinkles and responsibility, but life does not move according to our needs, so move in your own flow.
I’d like to formally welcome you to capital “A” for Ageing
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